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Why Help Others?

Posted on March 30, 2017
Why Help Others?


"The greatest good you can do for another is not just share your riches, but to reveal to him his own." 

-Benjamin Disraeli


Success in life is rarely a solo act.  Whether we realize it or not, often our greatest successes in life are made with and through others. It can be both humbling and moving to recall the many ways others have invested their time, energy, and wisdom into our lives.

There is no question that there is a significant impact on the person being helped.  But, if you are the one investing in the life of someone else, there are tremendous rewards as well.

Intrinsic and Extrinsic Rewards

Intrinsic.  There’s an incredible sense of satisfaction that comes from watching someone develop and grow. It can be one of the most gratifying experiences in life to watch someone else-someone you have personally invested in-meet their goals and achieve their dreams.  In short, when you help others be their best, you feel better about yourself.    

Extrinsic. Taking the time to share life experience, to challenge, to influence, to build up is the most effective form of leadership.  Your teams and organization will prosper when there’s the trust and respect that comes from a culture of service.  A great leader inspires others to be great.

Are you making a difference in your own life by making a difference in the life of someone else?


© 2017 The Growth Group, LLC - All rights reserved.

Know Yourself

Posted on February 28, 2017
Know Yourself

So, more than anything else in your life, perhaps, it is very, very important to know what motivates you and to make sure that there Is not too big a gap between this and what you do with your life.”

  -Ian Robertson, PH. D.


We spend a great deal of our life at work.  In fact, the average American will spend approximately 91,250 hours at work during their lifetime.  If we stop and think about that for a moment, we realize that is an incredible amount of time, particularly if we lack a sense of purpose and motivation for our work. Too often, we get stuck living someone else’s vision for our life instead of our own.

It takes intentionality to “swim against the current” of life and to choose your own path.  It takes self-awareness. 

Try asking yourself the following questions (and truly contemplate the answers):

What are your basic needs?

What is truly important to you?

What is your “why” –  your purpose?

What gets you excited?

What propels you toward your goals?

What does being motivated mean to you?

This journey of self-discovery is critical to complete.  It will not only empower you to make better decisions about your life, at home and at work, but it will empower you to live as a more authentic person.      


© 2017 The Growth Group, LLC - All rights reserved.

Let's Make a Deal

Posted on February 1, 2017
Let's Make a Deal

In an organization, an important deal is struck between the employer and the employee: the employer seeks to accomplish its goals and objectives by assigning job functions to an employee, and the employee is compensated financially to perform these functions.

That’s the deal.

Unfortunately, this deal isn’t always the best for producing the desired results.  Too often this process simply produces “clock punchers,” employees who provide just enough effort to avoid getting fired.    

Employers, then, are in need of people who give their discretionary effort and contribute to achieving the mission and goals of the organization.  Simply put, they must find ways to create more productive work environments.  They must find ways to incentivize above and beyond the financial.

The Win-Win:

One of the most basic needs of an employee is the need for appreciation.  While employers must be able to scale their incentive programs and address the needs of hundreds, sometimes thousands, of employees, a “one size fits all” approach to incentives rarely works.  However, a focus on creating a level of “mass customization” as part of the incentives process can have an enormous impact on productivity.

When employees are treated as unique individuals with their hopes, dreams, strengths, and aspirations acknowledged, and their need for appreciation met, they will be more engaged and productive.  And productive people produce profits! 

© 2017 The Growth Group, LLC - All rights reserved.

The Big Mistake

Posted on December 30, 2016
The Big Mistake

Mistakes are the growing pains of wisdom.”


As a sales manager, Paul liked to hold weekly accountability meetings with each of his six team members.  The idea was to help provide training and guidance to each as they grew in their careers, while also keeping them focused on their sales goals.  Five of the six seemed to thrive under this style of leadership.  One did not.

Earl was a great salesperson.  He enjoyed his job, found the work challenging yet rewarding and got along very well with his co-workers. All, of course, except for Paul, his manager.  He found Paul’s accountability meetings intrusive and unnecessary.  He believed his work spoke for itself; he didn't need the constant oversight.  

A noticeable rift began to form between Paul and Earl.  Paul became defensive, rationalizing that if five of the six he worked with were doing well with his accountability approach, then surely the problem was not with him.  Earl grew resentful, considering Paul’s methods a form of harassment. 

Their relationship ended badly.  Earl resigned from the organization, and Paul felt a vague sense of failure over the conflict. 

Like Paul and Earl, we each have our own set of needs and expectations in how we want to treat and be treated by others. When others don’t know our needs and expectations, however, it’s easy to feel insulted and mistreated.

The big mistake made in any relationship, whether personal or professional, is the unwillingness to learn, understand, and appreciate another’s needs and expectations.

There are three key elements to avoiding this big mistake:

1.     Self-awareness.  Evaluate your words and actions in order to minimize possible stress in others.

2.     Flexibility.  Be willing to adjust your usual behavior to fit the situation.

3.     Share.  Don't be afraid to communicate your needs with others. 

Not all conflict can be avoided.  But if you're willing to take the time and make the effort to meet the needs of others-and share your own in the process-the big communication mistakes become much harder to make. 

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