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The Best You

Posted on August 31, 2016
The Best You

When we do the best that we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another.”

-Helen Keller 


Josh stepped back and gazed at the vase he had created. It was beautiful. But more than that, it had been a truly satisfying experience.  He had conceived the idea and crafted it with his own hands.  The finished product was not only a work of art, it was a work of the heart.

But his pottery was a personal pursuit; something he did by night after work.  By day, he worked in an office at a job that felt slightly too confining and structured for him.  Josh was quickly coming to the understanding that his hobby was an extremely rewarding process that energized and inspired him, while his job stifled his creativity and limited his potential.  In essence, his job was making him miserable. 

Unfortunately, as Josh can attest, consistently operating out of alignment with your uniqueness, deprives you of the opportunity to be and do your best.  It’s like being a fish out of water trying to do something other than swim. 

If you’ve found yourself in a similar situation, or if you’d simply like to make sure you’re on the right track, try these exercises:

1. Determine your Lifestyle goals.

• Ask yourself:  What’s important to me? (Family, friends, spiritual matters, intellectual pursuits, wealth, etc., or a combination of several).  How do I want to spend my time? What do I love to do?  What makes me feel like me?

• Create goals based on the answers to these questions.  (Ex. Fitness Goals, Thinking Goals, Relationship Goals, Financial Goals, etc.)

2. Appreciate your uniqueness.

• Create two columns.

• Label the first column Things I do extremely well and list those things you believe you do very well. Consider both professional and personal activities. 

• Label the second column Why I am passionate about this and answer according to the first column.

• Create a “Unique Me” statement, based on your list.

Understanding that you are unique, with unique ideas, abilities, and passions, is the first step in becoming the most authentic you . . . and an authentic you will lead to the best you.  





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Lesson Learned

Posted on July 29, 2016
Lesson Learned

When we seek to discover the best in others,

we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.”

-William Arthur Ward (1921 - 1994)


At twenty-nine, I was a newly hired manager with ten employees, many of whom were at least a decade older.  In an effort to get to know each team member, I made a point to visit with each person once a week and give positive, specific feedback.

On Friday afternoons, I met with Mrs. Orr, our budgeting and finance specialist.  After weeks of these one-on-one meetings with her, she asked if I was interested in hearing ideas about improving employee productivity. 

“Of course!” I said.

“Eliminate our Friday meetings,” she replied. 

I listened, aghast and slightly embarrassed, as she explained that she could improve her personal productivity by 20% if she didn’t have to meet with me.  She was a professional, she went on, she knew when she had done her job well; she didn’t need me telling her.  I later discovered that Mrs. Orr was uncomfortable with praise.  In fact, our “appreciative dialogs” were stressful for her. 

It was a powerful lesson in understanding the needs of others.

Each person is unique.  Each person has their own set of needs and expectations, their own motivational drivers. Understand these, and you’ll give the individual a chance to grow and flourish. 

Treat people the way the want to be treated, and you’ll be able to bring out their best. And working to bring out the best in others, will inevitably bring out the best in you, too. 




© 2016 The Growth Group, LLC - All rights reserved.


Posted on June 30, 2016

Are you keeping the promises you make to yourself?


Most of us have good intentions in regard to the promises we make to ourselves.

Often these promises are a result of goals and actions we'd like to pursue.  Many of these promises are made at the first of the year, quarter, month, week, or day.

Too many times, however, other people, events, situations, and excuses intervene and interfere. The result?  We fall short of our goals; our actions never quite make it to the finish line. 

The promises we make to ourselves are just as important as those we make to others.  They push us to achieve our own goals, our own dreams.  They push us forward.

Are you keeping your own promises?

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Posted on April 29, 2016

Happiness is something you design; it is a practice, an art.”

–Jim Rohn

I have not yet concluded my thinking on the topic of “happiness.” 

Is happiness something we pursue, or is it something that we attract?

Does happiness manifest itself from the inside out or from the outside in?

Is happiness something we realize because we desire it, or because we deserve it—or both?  Or neither?

Is being happy the same as a happy being?

Regardless of whether it is natural or cultivated, happiness is essential to a well-balanced, successful life.  In fact, your level of happiness can have a profound effect on the happiness of those around you, too.  

So, make a point to be happy.  It matters. 


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