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How To Work With Me

Posted on September 30, 2016
How To Work With Me

Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success.”

-Henry Ford


On John's very first day on the job at a large organization, he found several files waiting for him on his desk, no explanation, no instructions.  He sat for hours going through them trying to figure out what he was supposed to do.  The very brief visit by his new boss later that day was no help at all.

“Take care of the projects outlined in the files,” his new employer said, then added casually, “And I need them completed by the end of the week.”

John spent days working on the files, desperately trying to make sense of them.  He tried approaching his manager many times for answers but was repeatedly waved away and told to “figure it out.” Being a diligent worker, and used to performing well and producing great results, John couldn’t help but be discouraged by the situation.  In fact, after only a few weeks, John decided to quit his job.

His manager was shocked.  The man disliked structure of any kind and thrived on deadlines.  He couldn’t relate to John’s need for context and organization. The two parted ways, both realizing too late that their working relationship had been a bad fit from the start.     

When there is a failure to learn how to work with one another, problems inevitably arise.  Sometimes issues take a while to surface; sometimes the impact is immediate.  Either way, the result is not only wasted time and energy, but frustration. 

The ability to work effectively with others is critical to the success of any organization.  It’s also extremely important to an individual’s success.

Are you performing at your best?  Are you able to perform at your best?

Consider the following:

1.     What is your communication style?

2.     What incentivizes you?  What motivates you?

3.     What are the biggest mistakes others can make with you?


Nothing will have a more significant impact on your ability to do well in the workplace than a greater understanding of your own needs and the needs of others.




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The Best You

Posted on August 31, 2016
The Best You

When we do the best that we can, we never know what miracle is wrought in our life, or in the life of another.”

-Helen Keller 


Josh stepped back and gazed at the vase he had created. It was beautiful. But more than that, it had been a truly satisfying experience.  He had conceived the idea and crafted it with his own hands.  The finished product was not only a work of art, it was a work of the heart.

But his pottery was a personal pursuit; something he did by night after work.  By day, he worked in an office at a job that felt slightly too confining and structured for him.  Josh was quickly coming to the understanding that his hobby was an extremely rewarding process that energized and inspired him, while his job stifled his creativity and limited his potential.  In essence, his job was making him miserable. 

Unfortunately, as Josh can attest, consistently operating out of alignment with your uniqueness, deprives you of the opportunity to be and do your best.  It’s like being a fish out of water trying to do something other than swim. 

If you’ve found yourself in a similar situation, or if you’d simply like to make sure you’re on the right track, try these exercises:

1. Determine your Lifestyle goals.

• Ask yourself:  What’s important to me? (Family, friends, spiritual matters, intellectual pursuits, wealth, etc., or a combination of several).  How do I want to spend my time? What do I love to do?  What makes me feel like me?

• Create goals based on the answers to these questions.  (Ex. Fitness Goals, Thinking Goals, Relationship Goals, Financial Goals, etc.)

2. Appreciate your uniqueness.

• Create two columns.

• Label the first column Things I do extremely well and list those things you believe you do very well. Consider both professional and personal activities. 

• Label the second column Why I am passionate about this and answer according to the first column.

• Create a “Unique Me” statement, based on your list.

Understanding that you are unique, with unique ideas, abilities, and passions, is the first step in becoming the most authentic you . . . and an authentic you will lead to the best you.  





© 2016 The Growth Group, LLC - All rights reserved.

Lesson Learned

Posted on July 29, 2016
Lesson Learned

When we seek to discover the best in others,

we somehow bring out the best in ourselves.”

-William Arthur Ward (1921 - 1994)


At twenty-nine, I was a newly hired manager with ten employees, many of whom were at least a decade older.  In an effort to get to know each team member, I made a point to visit with each person once a week and give positive, specific feedback.

On Friday afternoons, I met with Mrs. Orr, our budgeting and finance specialist.  After weeks of these one-on-one meetings with her, she asked if I was interested in hearing ideas about improving employee productivity. 

“Of course!” I said.

“Eliminate our Friday meetings,” she replied. 

I listened, aghast and slightly embarrassed, as she explained that she could improve her personal productivity by 20% if she didn’t have to meet with me.  She was a professional, she went on, she knew when she had done her job well; she didn’t need me telling her.  I later discovered that Mrs. Orr was uncomfortable with praise.  In fact, our “appreciative dialogs” were stressful for her. 

It was a powerful lesson in understanding the needs of others.

Each person is unique.  Each person has their own set of needs and expectations, their own motivational drivers. Understand these, and you’ll give the individual a chance to grow and flourish. 

Treat people the way the want to be treated, and you’ll be able to bring out their best. And working to bring out the best in others, will inevitably bring out the best in you, too. 




© 2016 The Growth Group, LLC - All rights reserved.


Posted on June 30, 2016

Are you keeping the promises you make to yourself?


Most of us have good intentions in regard to the promises we make to ourselves.

Often these promises are a result of goals and actions we'd like to pursue.  Many of these promises are made at the first of the year, quarter, month, week, or day.

Too many times, however, other people, events, situations, and excuses intervene and interfere. The result?  We fall short of our goals; our actions never quite make it to the finish line. 

The promises we make to ourselves are just as important as those we make to others.  They push us to achieve our own goals, our own dreams.  They push us forward.

Are you keeping your own promises?

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